Thursday, March 19, 2009

A wicked awesome date

So I think I forgot to mention the K and I had the most incredible date night last weekend.  We went to see W.I.C.K.E.D. in San Francisco.  It was so amazing.  We've been to a lot of shows but have always had sort of crappy seats.  So K splurged (the tickets were actually my birthday gift) and got us great seats where we could see everything.  Front row center of the balcony!  And oddly enough there were 4 empty seats just inside of our row.  At the end of act one I heard some folks behind us talking about ditching their seats and taking the empties next to us.  I was so annoyed.  For some reason I can't stand when people so stuff like that.  They didn't buy those seats.  They didn't deserve the spectacular view.  And who sneaks into seats at the theater.  Come on.  Well of course they did.  Once act 2 started, they waited of course for the show to begin and the lights to dim.  Then they came out of nowhere, disrupting everyone to get those seats.  I almost didn't let them but I didn't want to make a scene.  Where are the ushers when you need them?

Changing gears..........
I finally outed myself as an IVF patient.  Well I did tell one other close childhood friend over email before we did the cycle.  But this time I outed myself over the phone.  So much drama. My friend Kristen who I've known for about 20 years now called to congratulate me and I let it all out.  But truthfully I had an agenda.  Please don't judge!!!  O.K. hear is the scoop.  I have had my suspicions for years that Kristen had fertility issues.  She always said she wanted kids and got married at 21 because she wanted to be a young mother.  Well once we hit 30 and all the rest of our friends started having kids I started to wonder if she was screwed up like me.  But we never discussed it.  We always talked about meaningless crap.  Even more reason that I was suspicious.  Anyway, her brother and my brother are best friends and both of them thought the same thing too.  They came to the conclusions on their own and tried to get me to talk to her to find out why she had been very depressed as of late.  Of course I would never do that.  I would want her to have her space to deal with things on her own and come to me if she needed and decided on her own.  And of course the 3 of us could have been wrong.  She could have changed her mind about having children.  You never know.  So I never asked.  But once she called me I just let it all out.  Told her about my whole 2 year struggle and the surgeries and the treatments.  She was so understanding and sweet and I immediately wished that I had unloaded on her earlier.  But I still thought in the back of my mind that since I was sharing all of this stuff she might tell me what is going on with her.  Nothing!  I got nothing!  So maybe I am wrong.  I hope to God I am.  I wouldn't wish IF on my worst enemy let alone my dear friend.   Well whatever it is that is hurting her I hope she opens up to someone.  In the meantime I'm keeping my arms open for her in case that person is me.

7 comments:

B MoM said...

Cool, the DH and I are going to NYC soon and want to see a play. This is the 2nd great review I've heard about W.ick.ed. Sounds like this one might be the one to see.

Maybe your friend has fertility issues but isn't ready to talk? Or maybe the fertility issue is the male factor and she doesn't want to out the hubby?

militarywifealways said...

Glad you had an awesome time at the play I missed it when it came here :0(

Hope that it is just your friend changing her mind or like the pp maybe she just doesn't want to say it out loud to anyone because it becomes that much real, it took me awhile to admit we have an IF problem

Marcu said...

I'm so jealous you got to see Wicked! What a great b-day gift.

I hope everything with your friend is ok. Maybe she will feel comfortable sharing with you once she processes your conversation a bit more.

alicia said...

I am glad you were able to talk to your friend, baby she just needs to digest what you said and the she will open up!

the date night sounds awesome!

Andrea said...

Sounds like a great plan!!

I hope that your friend isn't having TTTC, but f she is, maybe she'll feel less alone now that you filled her in on your journey.

theworms said...

I still haven't seen Wicked, I'm sure it was a great night.

I hope your friend will be able to confide in you in the future if she is actually dealing with IF. It was nice of you to come out to her.

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