I did ask him about transferring 2 blasts and he didn't totally agree with my RE that I wouldn't be able to carry a twin pregnancy to term. But he said the chances of going into pre-term labor increase with twins and that I should consider that when deciding how many we want to transfer. I know that Busted (from Busted Babymaker) and some other women out there have had success transferring one so I'm feeling a tad better about it. But just a tad. I'll need to research this some more too.
The last thing we talked about was how long I should wait before TTC. This was the only part of the consult that bugged me. He agreed that 3 months was standard but that I may need more time mentally. I told him that mentally I thought I was getting there and know it will take some time. That I have an appointment with a therapist tomorrow, and I'm reading a lot about grief and pregnancy/baby loss (I have a stack of books I'm going through). This blog, others blogs, and message boards are a good outlet for me too. This is what works for me. But he gave me a skeptical look and said "well it best to take some time because the next pregnancy you'll be really anxious". O.K. I get that. Of course I'll be anxious! But I don't think that waiting 6 months instead of 3 is going to stop that anxiety from coming. Whether I get pregnant tomorrow or next year I'll be anxious during the pregnancy. I know myself. And I know that I've waited long enough. I waited for my husband to want to TTC. I waited for the fibroid surgeries. I waited to go to the RE. I waited for IVF. Now I have to wait again. I'm tired of waiting. I want to be a mother to a live baby. I guess this is something to go over with the therapist tomorrow.